You’re Engaged! Now What? The First 4 Steps of Wedding Planning

Hooray! You’re engaged! Now what do you do? Your engagement can be a source of joy but also a lot of stress and feelings of being overwhelmed. Wedding planning can be fun and exciting, but to some, it’s a daunting task. Now that you’re engaged, streamline your wedding planning and decision-making process with these 4 tips.

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Step 1: Pick 3 words to describe your wedding

These words can describe how you want to feel on that day and the mood and environment you want to create. While you’re wedding planning, remember these words. They will guide you in your decision-making process and will help narrow your choices. Examples can be “Relaxed” or “formal,” “intimate,” “unique,” “jaw-dropping.” Whatever you want it to be!

Step 2: Pick 3-5 goals you want to focus on for the wedding

Like Step One, these goals are very important during the decision-making process of wedding planning. They will provide focus and remind you of your  priorities when choosing between vendors, decor options, favors, etc. Unless you have an unlimited budget, you will need to prioritize and identify your negotiables and non-negotiables. Do you want five-star food, excellent live music, special one-on-one time with family members, for you and your future spouse to be relaxed and stress-free? Usually you can’t have everything, so know what’s most important to you and stick to it.

Step 3: Discuss with your future spouse your BUDGET and your GUEST LIST.

In wedding planning, these two go hand-in hand and significantly affect each other. Your budget will grow exponentially with your guest list. Know what you are comfortable spending. Many couples are opting to have a more intimate gathering in order to be able to increase their overall spending per person.

Step 4: Seriously consider hiring a wedding planner.

A good wedding planner will save you a ton of time, money, headache and stress. Once they know your goals, they can identify the right venues and vendors that fit with your vision and your budget because it’s their job to know a variety and to advise you on what you can afford and who can best execute what you have in mind.


Now you have a great foundation to help you tackle all those wedding planning decisions. As long as you keep them in mind, you will be refreshed, relaxed and ready to party when your wedding day finally arrives. If you want more information, don’t be a stranger and reach out!  And don’t forget – I host monthly Ask a Planner chats – consider them my office hours – for all things weddings and events. I hope to hear from you soon! Happy planning!

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